woulda thought this would be pretty easy to figure, but i was wrong it seems. scoped through pretty much all the xml's in 'diplomacy', but couldnt find any way to do this.

i did have the thought that it may be the 'friendly influence' tag in DiplomaticRelationStates[Major], but it didnt seem to work. though come to think of it, since they all seem to add or remove tags mebbe a new game would be needed to test it.

and the 'roots' too, for that matter. an 'alliance' is not an invitation to take over my damned house.